G’ma Ida with a very little you and a very new Curious George (Jul 1991)

Dear Jonah,

I’ve been thinking about George — Curious George — that pervasive little imp who entered your life when you were only a year old, and who’s still very much here, living with us simply because stuffed bedtime friends don’t ever have to die. George continues to reside in your bedroom, which is now Mom’s study. I like to think that George is watching over your domain until you return but, hey, what do stuffed dolls know?

Curious George came into your life when your honorary grandparents, Fran and Gerry Weingast, gave him to you. They’d hoped that he would become one of those toys that a child won’t ever let out of their sight, which is precisely what occurred. From the moment you boys laid eyes on each other, you became the best of friends. George would follow you around for quite literally the rest of your life, so much so that even when you were still very young, while we were pretty sure you liked us, we knew without a doubt that you loved your monkey.

Back in 1991, reflecting on your first year of life I wrote, “Sometimes Jonah is overtaken by excitement, the source of which we have absolutely no inkling, but he runs over to me and buries his head in my shoulder, too cute for words. And although he hasn’t yet really learned to hug us, he has most definitely learned to hug his very soft and cuddly Curious George doll. And when you see this little boy smothering that doll with so much affection, well, that’s the kind of stuff that melts parents away!”

George comes with you to Colorado (Jul 1992)

The love between you two was legendary. George went everywhere with you. He slept faithfully at your side. And for a while, he even traveled with you. Until he got left behind at the Fairmount Temple preschool in Cleveland. Fearful we’d never see him again, Mom and I immediately and surreptitiously purchased a second George. Nearly identical (except for a hat and the fact that he was in mint condition), when the real George resurfaced and returned home, we were very pleased that we never had to sneak this pretender into your life. From then on, we were all more careful about letting George out of the house.

As the years tumbled by, pretty much everyone in your life knew about the two of you. At 2½, spending summers with us at Kutz Camp, you carried George everywhere. At 6, he slept with you on overnights with friends. At 12, he went to Eisner Camp with you (which was pretty amazing, considering how peer-conscious twelve-year olds are).

In the woods with you and your entire 7th grade class (Jul 2003)

Also at 12, you included him in a school project for which you made a timeline of your life. You wrote, “Curious George is my little stuffed monkey. I consider him to be my stuffed teddy bear. He’s really old and the letters on his shirt are almost all the way off, but he’s mine and I don’t care what he looks like.”

At 13, you spent a weekend in the woods with your school. You forgot deodorant and your toothbrush, but not George. At 15, for Hanukkah we gave you a book of The Complete Adventures of Curious George. I don’t know if I got to all of them during my own childhood, but I certainly read an awful lot of those skinny yellow paperbacks and was thrilled to put the entire collection into your hands.

At 18, amidst the mess that was your room, George was still at your side. He might disappear occasionally beneath the sheets and blanket of your rarely made bed, but while your life filled up with parties and shows and girls, Curious George made camp right nearby.

But when you went away to college, George finally stayed home. You left him on your bed, resting against your pillows, where he had always waited for you, no matter what directions life took. While you were studying up in Buffalo, George moved nary a muscle back home (except when mom made your bed). Time meant little to George; he would wait for you as long as necessary. So in March 2009, George remained on your bed patiently awaiting a return that, this time, was not to come.

On your bed while you were away at college (2008-09)

After you died, I would often sit in your bedroom remembering. And while I knew that everything in there belonged to your childhood, and that you had deliberately left it all behind, instructing us to do whatever we wanted with all of it — that much like your name change from Jonah to Mac, you no longer needed any of it — I wondered, “George too?”

And that should really have been the end of it. George should have become a sweet piece of trivia from the years of your youth, eventually ending up in a box in the basement or simply disappearing with no one remembering where he’d gone to. But now, he’s become something much more. George shares my sadness. We’re both waiting for someone we loved who will never again appear. We’ve become partners in our loss. And while I understand that George is just an inanimate doll, your absence still conjures up so much difficult emotion for me. I guess I fill him with the feelings we all hold onto. We just miss you, Jo.

So to this day — to this day — George waits for you. He rests on your blue couch, silently witnessing the passage of time, perpetually and faithfully … waiting.

What else can I do? Yes, I could put away my grief. I could close the door forever on your life. But here’s the thing. I like feeling you. I like missing you. I’d like a whole lot more if you were here, but you’re not going to be here. And I have absolutely no intention of erasing you.

So George and I are going to wait.

I never asked you, Jonah, why you didn’t take Curious George to college. Did he finally belong to your past, one more piece of your childhood that you were ready to relinquish? Or did you just want to make sure he didn’t disappear during the uncertain, less private times ahead of you?

What I know is this. That little monkey reminds me of you. He reminds me how silly you were, how often trouble followed in your wake. He reminds me how huggable you were and, yes, how curious you were about so many things, about how things worked, about why people were how they were, and what you could do to lend a hand. But most of all, Curious George, sitting on your couch, patiently waiting, reminds me of your loyalty and of your love.

You never forgot George. I’ll never forget you.

Love you forever,



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  • GAIL E GARIN - March 29, 2021 reply

    I attended a Seder last night at which a reading was taken from you–about Pesach coming at springtime, when the world blossoms, and our souls do as well, despite storms and loss… really moved me tremendously, striking a chord as I thought of my son Casimir who I lost two years ago at the age of 26. This morning I looked you up on line and found the story of Jonah….I was not surprised, I think we parents must learn to recognize each other!! THank you for your beautiful words…..I will be reading your blog, past and future!

  • Diane Beckett - January 19, 2021 reply

    What a loving, humorous and heartfelt tribute to your beautiful son Jonah and George. I am now remembering my own family members who are no longer with me and for that I am grateful. Love to you and Ellen❤️

  • Riki - January 19, 2021 reply

    This is heartbreakingly exquisite. George, witness to Jonah, witness to childhood joy, and witness to the senselessness of Jonah’s absence. And somehow a toy is always witness to hope, even if we don’t know for what we hope. Y’chi George l’olam.

  • Laura - January 18, 2021 reply

    What a beautiful emotional tribute to Jonah, to your loss and forever immense grief and love. He will remain forever young in your memories with his child’s face full of wonder and curiosity. I was lucky to meet him and spend a little time when in 3rd grade Hebrew school. He made his lovely dreidel with clay. Thanks for sharing this!

  • Yaffa Rubin - January 18, 2021 reply

    This is a beautiful tribute that is full of everlasting love. I never did meet Jonah in person. Your letters to Jonah enable me to better understand the beautiful soul of Jonah and what a light he will always be. Thank you for sharing.

  • Phyllis Opochinsky - January 18, 2021 reply

    I am crying. What my mom would have called “ good cry.” After a good cry, she would tell me to eat some ice cream or drink a cold glass of milk.

    I too read my children and grandchildren The Velveteen Rabbit and Love You Forever.

    Laurie had a white rabbit kitten with green eyes she called “yow.” We replaced them as they disintegrated. When rabbit hair was not allowed to be imported, Steve ran all around Manhattan buying all that he could find. She carried a piece of her last yow with her almost forever.

    Sam has “Yellow,” the blanket I knit for him when he was born. He loved it until it was strings. I knit a second one but he kept the first. One got rolled up in hotel linens so I made three and then four — and a small square that is pocket portable.

    I need no George to remember Jonah.

  • Aliza - January 18, 2021 reply

    What a beautiful picture of love you have painted here with these words and emotions.
    Hugs to you all.

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